This weekend Greg is at a Men’s retreat with our church. It’s the first time that we’ve been apart since we got married and I miss my husband terribly. The house feels different and the boys are different too. I guess what I miss most is not being able to have date night or what we like to call, Fri-yay.
There are so many things in life that can steal your attention, time, brain space, energy. People,annoying people, family, work, situations- life is a constant barrage of information to process, decisions to make, errands to run. We can’t escape what life brings to the table, but we can choose what we eat. In other words- we get to decide who or what gets the best of us. Our kids get the best of us. And for us to be the best parents, it helps when we fill our relationship with fun, exciting, exclusive, adult time.
We know that Fridays are an investment financially but we also know that this is what we want to spend money on..It’s a rewarding investment. Also, Fridays may not always be dinner and a show. It might be a stroll in a park or a trip to the bookstore.
Fridays have become our unofficial, official date night. It’s been really nice. We found an awesome babysitter who we trust and who the boys love. As long as she shows up, we will go out 🙂 Friday nights have been an adventure- we’ve discovered that Lancaster city has much to offer. From 80’s cover bands to first rate symphony’s. We really enjoy being with each other in this way, it makes us feel like we’re still doing the dating dance. But more than the new foods and thrill of different activities, we get to enjoy the process. The planning, choosing the right outfit, the build up to our date is almost as much fun as the date itself and allowing the kids to see that we invest time in each other is very important. Greg is a very attentive husband and I get a thrill from knowing and seeing that he’s protective over me (in a healthy way). Sounds silly but it makes me feel beautiful and desired knowing that he’s always looking out for me. Going out, just the two of us, allows me to see what a gentleman he is. When a man cleans up nice, washes his car because you’ll be in it, compliments his wife at the right time, knows how to choose his whiskey, and knows how to properly smoke the occasional cigar- it’s intoxicating. Ladies- let him strut what he’s got, men need to know that you want and need them too. Your knees just might buckle when he holds the door open, looks up at you all clean and dapper and asks if you had a good time tonight.
Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all
A few of our date night favs:
Tellus (80’s cover band)
The Ware Center
Mt Gretna Theatre (an open air playhouse)